Well, I didn’t want this blog to become a Mommy Blog. I made lots of snarky comments about Mommy Blogging when we started this endeavor. However, that’s where I’m at – as we say in Pittsburgh – so another Mom post it will be. Maybe the next one will be about wine or something from another part of life 🙂
Arlo was born one week ago, almost exactly as I’m writing this. It’s been a fairly easy transition so far, if i’m being totally honest. But the reason it’s been easy goes beyond the good weather, good natured baby, and the knowledge you have with a second child that you don’t with the first. The reason it’s been easier really is because of Wes. I can honestly say I couldn’t do this without him.
A few reasons to be grateful:
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He’s a shift taker. Right now, there’s not much he can do in the way of feeding, but when he offers to hold the baby for an hour so I can sleep, at 3 am, I’m grateful.
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Cleans the stuff I can’t get to right now.
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Spends extra time with Ronan so he doesn’t feel too left out.
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Switched his schedule to be around.
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Calls just to check in.
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Did laundry. And folded it! This one is particularly helpful, since I can’t bend over or carry stuff for a while.
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Set up and clean up for visitors – one of the perks of coming home early was having people to our house instead of the hospital. A perk for me…but W had to do lots of dishes in the meantime. He did it with a smile.
- Took me to the mall to walk around and get out of the house. He then remained cheerful, even though the whole trip involved sitting at the food court, trying to nurse, then sitting at the play place, then sitting again, at a chair by JC Penny’s, because the baby actually wanted to nurse at that point, and then driving home.
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Spends time with me just staring at the baby, reveling in the gift we have in our arms.
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And then, he goes to work!
Some of you are thinking – well moms do all the work, really. And maybe sometimes, that’s true. Some of you might be thinking, this is stuff your husband should do, what’s the big deal? Maybe that’s true too– but no one has to help another person. Let’s toast to all the things Fathers do that go unnoticed or unthanked while we are transitioning a new life to the world.